Last night, it really hit home. How much I am Queen Introvert.
It’s a biased society we live in where “being social” is something introverts are expected to do in order to get along with the world’s extroverts. I feel it’s unfair for us to change in order to fit in with the world’s expectations.
It’s unfortunate that us introverts are usually misunderstood. Whilst we are happy to spend time in our own thoughts for a while, an extrovert can misunderstand this as us being a) uncomfortable, b) unresponsive, not willing to participate or c) would rather be alone or d) all of the above.
I can understand, from an extrovert’s perspective, why it would seem weird for a person to just sit there and not say a lot. But introverts like to take time to absorb the atmosphere for a while and just listen to you. Maybe it seems like we don’t have a lot to say but we usually aren’t ones for “small talk.” Give us a real topic that we’re interested in and we could go on forever.
And yes, sometimes we do avoid large social gatherings. Or if we do decide to go, we get concerned looks because we start to get quiet. Extroverts, you have to understand that “being social” takes a lot more out of us than out of you. For you, being social is like a source of energy. For us, it drains it. So by the end of the night, we need to recharge. And we do that best by retreating into our thoughts.
Us introverts, we much prefer some quiet time with a few good friends in a calm, comfortable environment.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.)
– Carl King
I’m not saying that introverts should stop 100% in trying to get along in the extrovert world. I’m just saying perhaps extroverts would benefit from trying to understand our introvert world. Understanding each other requires a two-way effort. 🙂
I am not an expert. This is purely my own opinion, from the experience of a rather extreme introvert. Introverts are not all the same and neither are all extroverts. We all fall on that scale in different places. But to all the introverts out there, I say we should continue being proud of ourselves and never be ashamed that we aren’t as “social” as others. We’re always told to be ourselves. That goes for us introverts too 🙂
Don’t ever feel guilty for being you 🙂
And on that note, I leave you with this. This is a video of Susan Cain talking about the Power of Introverts, a video I posted previously and still enlightens me everytime.
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