Inside The Mind Of An Introvert

Last night, it really hit home. How much I am Queen Introvert.

It’s a biased society we live in where “being social” is something introverts are expected to do in order to get along with the world’s extroverts. I feel it’s unfair for us to change in order to fit in with the world’s expectations.

It’s unfortunate that us introverts are usually misunderstood. Whilst we are happy to spend time in our own thoughts for a while, an extrovert can misunderstand this as us being a) uncomfortable, b) unresponsive, not willing to participate or c) would rather be alone or d) all of the above.

I can understand, from an extrovert’s perspective, why it would seem weird for a person to just sit there and not say a lot. But introverts like to take time to absorb the atmosphere for a while and just listen to you. Maybe it seems like we don’t have a lot to say but we usually aren’t ones for “small talk.” Give us a real topic that we’re interested in and we could go on forever.

And yes, sometimes we do avoid large social gatherings. Or if we do decide to go, we get concerned looks because we start to get quiet. Extroverts, you have to understand that “being social” takes a lot more out of us than out of you. For you, being social is like a source of energy. For us, it drains it. So by the end of the night, we need to recharge. And we do that best by retreating into our thoughts.

Us introverts, we much prefer some quiet time with a few good friends in a calm, comfortable environment.

A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.)

– Carl King

I’m not saying that introverts should stop 100% in trying to get along in the extrovert world. I’m just saying perhaps extroverts would benefit from trying to understand our introvert world. Understanding each other requires a two-way effort. πŸ™‚

I am not an expert. This is purely my own opinion, from the experience of a rather extreme introvert. Introverts are not all the same and neither are all extroverts. We all fall on that scale in different places. But to all the introverts out there, I say we should continue being proud of ourselves and never be ashamed that we aren’t as “social” as others. We’re always told to be ourselves. That goes for us introverts too πŸ™‚

Don’t ever feel guilty for being you πŸ™‚

And on that note, I leave you with this. This is a video of Susan Cain talking about the Power of Introverts, a video I posted previously and still enlightens me everytime.

Want more Introvert posts? I’ve written a few more!

10 Myths About Introverts
Another Introvert Video!
Susan Cain: The power of introverts
Something I Learned About Introverts

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About Lily

Lily is the blogger's name of an overimaginative, positivity-powered, and potentially awkward introvert girl who likes to think she's "quirky" (though it's very possible that she's just plain weird!) She loves music, musical theatre, art & comics, inspirational stories, languages, expressive people and anything that is a little eccentric.
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3 Responses to Inside The Mind Of An Introvert

  1. Pingback: Introverts are awesome. really | Underlying Overwhelming

  2. Bina says:

    I totally get you after being called all sorts of names from, difficult, weird, little Ms. Perfect (this from my own sis), etc. The truth is, I care more that it shows and feel more than I care to admit.

    • Lily says:

      Yes, like you, there are more feelings inside that I don’t always admit. But we should always remember, we’re only being ourselves, we all matter and we have our own wonderful qualities to be proud of. And it’s always good to know we have the support of fellow introverts with us! πŸ™‚ Thanks for commenting!

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