“I want to live with all my memories. Even if they’re bad memories. Even if they’re memories that only hurt me… that I’d rather forget. If I keep them and keep trying, without running away, then someday I’ll be strong enough that those memories can’t defeat me. I believe that because I want to think that there’s no such thing as a memory that’s okay to forget.”
-Momiji Sohma, Fruits Basket
I live by a lot of Fruits Basket quotes. This is one of my very favourites.
There are some memories and experiences which perhaps we wish we could erase from our minds. If there was a ‘delete’ button in our memory, I’m sure many of us would like to use it at some point or another.
The memory is a strange and powerful thing. It knows we should forget about that green scarf our friend was wearing that one Tuesday two months ago. It knows to store the big details that matter to us, like the happy day we had with our family and friends, on that bright summer’s day or that snowy winter’s evening. It even knows to repress painful memories into the back of minds, away from our active thoughts, so we’re not constantly hurt. Isn’t that amazing? It knows how to protect us.
This quote really hits me because it tells us to make the most what we can’t control. Memories can’t be controlled. They can’t be easily forgotten. We can’t force them out. We can’t choose whether they should stay or go.
This quote tells us that every memory helps us grow. And I really think that’s true. Most of the time, we don’t even realise it. If we acknowledge this fact, I think it’s worth it. Even painful or sad memories can teach us something to help us become stronger.
We can’t control our memories… but we can grow from them 🙂