“They say that we should love ourselves first before other people learn to love us, but it’s not as easy as it seems. Sometimes, we need someone to love us and accept us first, then we would learn to see ourselves through that person’s eyes and learn to love ourselves.” – Yuki Sohma, Fruits Basket
I recently discovered an unofficial radio dramatization of Fruits Basket (their website here or click here to listen on YouTube.) I’ve mentioned it before but Fruits Basket (a very popular manga/anime series) has been an all-time favourite series of mine. I’ve read the manga and continue to re-read chapters every so often. I’ve watched the anime under three different languages (English dubbed, original Japanese dub with English subtitles, and Cantonese dubbed… French with subs, you’re next on the list!)
Fruits Basket is truly inspirational and never fails to bring out my inner-Tohru (selfless, forever optimistic, and always kind without question). So that got me searching for some inspirational quotes.
I’ve actually previously posted a version of this quote before, but it really resonates with me. Yes, I understand it’s important to learn to love yourself. But it’s also important to feel loved by others. For some people, they won’t believe they are worthy of love until they feel it unconditionally from someone else.
This isn’t about substituting self-love with the love provided from another. This is about understanding that both are equally important. We can’t rely purely on someone else’s love to be happy with ourselves… but it’s perhaps unrealistic to rely purely on self-love too. It can be difficult to practise self-loving when you don’t believe you deserve it.
To have someone know you for who you are and to feel accepted by them, I think that’s very important.
I’ll be going back to bringing out my inner-Tohru now. 🙂