The other week, I overheard a very bizarre conversation.
It wasn’t that the choice of topic was strange, but the way the conversation panned out. These two people were quite clearly talking about the same subject (of which I can’t really remember now) but… well, this is how the scenario went:
Person A said something. Person B then said something, same topic, but not replying. Just a new branch of the conversation. This is all fine, since it’s normal to branch off sometimes. But A would continue on their own branch. And B would do the same, continuing their own branch. So on, so forth…
Eventually, I realised neither of them were actually listening to each other.
It was practically two monologues running side-by-side but it just so happened, each person’s input filled the gap left by the other. (Though at points, they were ever so slightly talking over each other…)
From what I remember, A and B weren’t discussing anything serious (most likely a TV show). But even so, I wonder why neither of them were listening? Were they really that caught up with their own thoughts?
This is a reminder that anyone can listen, but perhaps some of us need to remember to listen. Though I do fully understand – occasionally, we do need to spill out our words and be the one who is listened to, especially if it’s something important to us. To talk about our problems can lighten our burdens. To feel like we’re listened to is to feel like acknowledged, to feel like we matter.
And for that reason, we should also understand the importance of being the listener too.
While some may brush it off as nothing, another may take it as a sign that their voice doesn’t matter. When their words aren’t being heard, it could be a little disheartening.
And a person who feels like they’re never listened to may one day choose not to speak at all.
So open up your ears and your heart… Remember to listen and let others be heard 🙂