It’s so easy to look around at the people of this world and think:
“Gosh. Everyone has their life all worked out. What about me? Why haven’t I got there? When will I get there? Will I ever?”
It’s easy to compare. I suppose it must be natural instinct. We like to see where everyone else is in order to judge where exactly we are.
While that’s all well and good, we can also be a little hard on ourselves at times.
Sure, it’s always good to have goals. It helps to keep us moving and achieving. But when it doesn’t quite work out or it’s taking longer than we planned… we can really beat ourselves up about it. Maybe a little too much.
Instead of comparing against others, we should try comparing against ourselves. Look at you now and look at you one year ago. How much has changed? How much progress have you made? Chances are, you’ll have gone through some changes, improved yourself, and learned a lot. Effectively, you have gained one whole year of experience. That’s one whole year up on the you of last year!
You may have seen people on Facebook (or even in real life) say: “I don’t get older. I level up!” I actually really love this phrase because that really is what we’re doing. Every year, we gain new experiences, new skills and new knowledge. We “level up.”
We shouldn’t dwell on asking why we are where we are. Maybe it isn’t the right time for you. Maybe there’s more to learn. Forget about why and focus on “levelling up.” Focus on how you’ll get to the next level.
But don’t forget to focus on now too. To think about the future is good, to reflect on the past is helpful, but now is where we are. Now is the time where we can gain experience but also to enjoy the ride.
Don’t be too hard on yourself if you think you’re behind in life. You most certainly are not. Things are just happening at your own pace and not everybody’s pace is the same. So keep stepping forward. You’re right on schedule.
And one day, you’ll get there. You will.