I Changed My Sentence… And What I Learned From That

“I liked the picture you posted yesterday.”
“Thanks! It’s fr… er- it was painted using acrylic paints.”

In that moment, I surprised even myself. I suddenly changed my sentence. Why?

What I was going to say: “Thanks! It’s from Pokémon!” Because although my friend didn’t know much about it and didn’t entirely get it herself, she knows that I like it and  would still happily talk to me about it. After all, that’s the kind of open-minded person she is.

I was always pleased I could have those conversations with people who didn’t know much about my interests – even if at times, I felt a little silly (the idea of catching and collecting these little creatures is, admittedly, a strange concept to explain!).

But there have been instances where I was made to feel bad about liking it. And I’ve heard similar stories from others, where they’ve been made to feel stupid or even ashamed for it.

This was something we all enjoyed and loved. Talking about it makes us excited. To then be made to feel bad about it — something about that is really sad. We aren’t hurting anyone. We’re not doing any harm. Why are we made to feel bad?

Why did I change my sentence? Because I was conscious of being overheard. I was aware of somebody there, someone there who would make me feel bad about it. Funnily enough, I don’t think they even realise they’re doing it, but nevertheless. I didn’t want that. Even though I’d built myself up for years, telling myself that “not every opinion matters,” I just wasn’t up to dealing with it. I changed my sentence.

The moment I did it, I thought to myself “this is kinda sad.” Just a second ago, I could feel the glee rushing into me as I begun to say “It’s from Pokémon!” and a second later, found myself retracting it.

That one little moment made me realise: I don’t want to make anyone feel invalidated for their interests. I want people to feel completely comfortable talking about whatever it is they love. If you like something, you can talk to me about it. If I don’t know what it is, I’d be more than happy to hear about it and find out.

I don’t want to be the person who makes someone change their sentence.

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Lily is the blogger's name of an overimaginative, positivity-powered, and potentially awkward introvert girl who likes to think she's "quirky" (though it's very possible that she's just plain weird!) She loves music, musical theatre, art & comics, inspirational stories, languages, expressive people and anything that is a little eccentric.
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2 Responses to I Changed My Sentence… And What I Learned From That

  1. MAST_K_ says:

    Hello,
    I also change my sentences sometimes not because I am conscious of something to be overheard but because they (or better to say my friends) do not know well what I am talking (or am going to talk). I think that if I speak something they do not know well, it might be boring to them (this is the way I think).
    Regarding Pokémon Go (or ‘’game’’ in general), my opinion is that new technologies or ideas are always criticised by someone who does not understand enough to criticise what they actually are. However, some of the critics are worth considering to improve services/products/ideas.
    Lastly, I enjoy your articles and would like to say thank you 🙂
    MAST_K_
    P.S. Btw, I might leave comment previous articles because I am reading from the newest.

    • Lily says:

      Hello! Thank you for visiting!

      Yeah, I know what you mean there. Sometimes if I think people might not be interested in something then I might talk about it less. I also agree that often people criticise a little too harshly and quickly considering they might not know much about whatever it is they’ve chosen to criticise. For those people, a little more open-mindedness is sometimes call for I think 🙂

      Thank you again, I’m glad you like my posts! Hope you enjoy reading and I look forward to your comments! 🙂

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