There is a quote I read once. It goes: Flowing water does not rot.
I can’t quite remember where or who this quote is from. (I think it may have been a Chinese quote that was translated in an online article I read.) But the sentiment is basically: water which keeps flowing, such as in a stream, won’t ever rot. But if you leave water in a place where it is stuck and doesn’t move, it will begin to stagnate and go bad.
A huge thing I’ve learned over the last year is to not fight with your feelings.
You can’t change your feelings by will. You shouldn’t lie to yourself about them nor should you bury them inside of you.
Feeling will always be feelings. We can’t help having them and we can’t choose which feeling we have in a situation… but we can control what we do with them and how we act upon them.
It is always best to acknowledge them. Accept them for what they are and then… let it flow. Don’t deny them, don’t argue or push them away – from experience, lying to yourself about a feeling can give you such a headache! Let it continue naturally and trust that things will get better eventually – and they so often do.
It’s good to think about our feelings. In fact, it’s important. It gives us a chance to process our thoughts. If we ignore them, they stagnate and it helps nobody. If we let them flow naturally, they can help us understand ourselves.
So we should think of feelings like water. Letting them flow will help us to grow. Keeping them trapped will only make them rot inside of us.
Whenever a feeling is bothering you, remember:
- Think of that feeling and acknowledge it.
- State the facts of that feeling and accept it.
- Don’t lie to yourself or try to force the feeling to change – feelings change on their own.
Because we may not always agree with our feelings but they will always be there. If we think of them like flowing water, we can better understand them and ourselves. They will always be there… so let’s work with them, not against them.