I once read a quote: You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.
I don’t fully agree with it because we, ourselves, should be aware of our own person and can find ways of improving ourselves.. But I can see where they’re coming from. It’s not uncommon to be influenced by the people we spend time with.
Life throws a lot of curve balls at you and circumstances can make you question or forget about things about yourself. Sometimes we put on a mask in an attempt to fit in and slowly, without realising, we become that mask.
For me, I like to remind myself through characters. I guess it isn’t untrue to say that the characters you watch on TV or read in a book are characters that you “spend time with.”
And there are occasions where I think to myself: “what would my favourite character do in this situation?” It can be surprisingly helpful, especially if you have various characters who would act differently. You can then choose the one you think would suit the situation best.
For me, there are two main characters who guide me through everything:
- Tohru Honda is my pinnacle for kindness, politeness and cheer.
- Misaki Ayuzawa is my go-to when I need to be a little more feisty and confident, unafraid to stand up for what I believe.
- And I look to both of them when I need self-encouragement, to never give up and put 110% into everything I do.
I should really start asking myself “what would they do?” questions more often. I sometimes catch myself thinking “is this really who I am?” when I start to forget myself in order to fit into an environment. True, it’s inevitable that we go through change – I just want to make sure the change will always be a positive one.