In the past, I think many of us introverts can agree that we were very easily misunderstood. The world’s ideal was that of the extroverted, outgoing personality. Introverts are associated with words such as “quiet” and “reserved” which – for some reason – were deemed negative by social standards.
As a huge introvert. I enjoy alone time, I love deep meaningful conversations, I am constantly thinking (perhaps a bit too much sometimes!) and I rarely get bored. But growing up in a world which favours extroversion has been hard at times. So I was really happy when all these wonderful articles on introversion (and how to embrace our true introvert) started sprouting around on the internet.
As my fellow introverts would agree, it felt like we were finally understood!
But well… It’s definitely amazing that introverts can now feel proud of who they are but sometimes I’m discouraged from clicking ‘like’ on certain posts because… well, some post titles seem a little passive aggressive. I don’t want to seem like I’m attacking extroverts.
Admittedly, I can understand where these writers are coming from. We’ve probably spent so long feeling invalidated for having our introverted needs such as alone time or avoidance of big social gatherings, that it’s easy for us to become defensive.
However, with all this spotlight being cast on introverts, I feel as though we’re forgetting about the equally wonderful qualities extroverts can hold.
So here are five great traits I admire about extroverts:
That air of confidence and assertiveness often found in extroverts. At most, I can pretend to be confident where the situation asks, but authentic genuine confidence is something I’ve always admired in others.
2. Great talkers
Unlike introverts, extroverts enjoy small talk (and are probably better at it!). Introverts prefer talking about topics we’re passionate about so small talk can be a little draining for us. Personally, I generally only use small talk to avoid awkward silences! So I admire how extroverts are able to carry a conversation on just about anything.
3. Great conversationalist
Wait. Isn’t this the same as point 2? Well, not exactly. Conversations with an extrovert are not limited to only small talk. Small talk can lead into much deeper topics. And us introverts love a deep conversation! For some reason, thoughtfulness is associated more with introversion but we shouldn’t forget that extroverts are unique individuals too, just like us, and they often have plenty of interesting things to say too!
4. Good with attention
Having an extroverted friend is particularly useful because all the attention can be diverted to them instead of unwittingly falling on you. Attention itself isn’t a bad thing. Sometimes it’s nice – especially when it involves praise or compliments – but admittedly, I don’t always know what to do with myself when it happens!
5. Extroverts are people too!
So this one isn’t restricted to only extroverts but there are so many articles helping us to embrace and celebrate our introvert friends that I wonder if extroverts are feeling a little neglected. Intro or extro, we’re all unique individuals and we should celebrate that!